Choosing The Right Career

It is a daunting task to choose a career. The hunt for the perfect career begins when student enters F.sc/Intermediate or A-Levels. It is the time when a long list of careers peak them. This article discusses some important tips that will help fresh graduates and future graduates in choosing the right career paths.

1.     Survey Your Options: Fresh graduates must survey all of the options they have for their career. Some jump to conclusions and choose the career in haste, and regret their decision later. Once you are done with your studies, or are at the brink of completion, you should list down all the career options for yourself. Suppose, if you are doing your masters in computer science, then you can list down all the skills that you possess and the ones you learned through the course of your studies. Once you have this list, you can easily identify the jobs that will suit you best, and you can work as a computer programmer, a software architect, web developer, software engineer or enter any other related profession. The same goes for students doing their majors in marketing, accounting, or human resource management.

2.    Stick In To Your Values: When choosing a career, you should adhere to the values which are closer to your heart. Everyone has a different set of values such a leadership, risk talking, security, working as a team member, gaining experience, climbing up the corporate ladder, prestige, monetary benefits, open to new ideas and creativity. You should determine the values, which are important to you and then make an effort in short listing a career where you can easily protect them. For instance, if you are a family oriented person and love spending time with your parents, siblings and close friends, then doing a job with long working values hours will hurt your values, as you will have no time for your social activities. Invest through the first few jobs fresh graduates are enthusiastic when doing their first job for the salary they will earn, which they plan to spend on shopping and other activities. The sole intention of doing your first job is to invest the salary instead of wasting it. People lavishly spend their income when they are in their early years of professional life, thinking that their family is there to support them. You should start investing from the very first salary you get, because you will gradually become independent when you ahead in your life. It will be your investment benefiting you in the end.

3.    Learn, Explore, Discover: A common fallacy in your society is that a person should choose a profession that compliments the degree he/she has received. If a student is an MBA in marketing, then he/she will look for jobs related to his field of study. You should enter the professional world with an open mind and be able to render your services in a job, which may not directly link to your degree. Unfortunately, fresh graduates lack this attitude. There is a concept of ‘’rotation’’ in internships, when internees gain experience by working in different departments. This enables them to learn insights about the professional world. Graduates must learn from the corporate world, explore their inner potential by accepting a job, which they can perform, no matter if it isn’t linked to what their studied at their university. This will help them discover their hidden potential.

4.    Follow Your Passion: Where doing the job not related with your degree is an option, finding a job where you can follow your passion is also necessary. You can turn your passion and hobby in your profession and there are no restrictions in doing so. If one loves photography, then he/she can do it on a professional level.

5.    Make Your Own Path; Don’t Compare: Comparing yourself with your peers and colleagues is mistake we all commit. Whether we are students or professionals, we try to match life, our careers, and ourselves with our contemporaries. This results in nothing but stress and anxiety. Everyone is different having a specific set of skills and talents. If your best friend is satisfied with his job as a sales manager, then it doesn’t mean that you too will become a good sales manager. You should try to visualize and realize what you are good at, and then focus on the work where you can do justice with your life and career. Sometimes career paths come from the heart, which prove to be the best choice.

Facing Reality

It is not uncommon to avoid the truth. Whether it is a bad grade or a shattering relationship, we hate to face the truth so much so that we might start living in a fantasy world, believing that things will miraculously change for the better on their own. However, the fact is that things don’t change on their own and you must accept reality if you want to be strong and successful in life. Here are a few suggestions on how to face reality.

1.     Open Up: Tell the truth to someone who cares. Call a person who can listen without being judgemental and won’t feel compelled to give advice. Do not worry just yet about what you will need to do next. This is a way to starting to accept the reality yourself while the goal is to get the necessary emotional support to hold you up while you allow the reality to sink in.

2.    Find A Friend: Look for someone who has dealt with your type of situation before and can help you make a smart action plan, for example your teacher, a relative or a class fellow or perhaps a close friend.

3.    Sacrifice: Living a life based on truth may require you to sacrifice a little and adopt a few things. For instance, if you have been ignoring your studies to have a good time, you may need to reduce your ‘’leisure time’’ to allow the change to take place. Patience, the ability to bear uncomfortable feelings and the willingness to face the worst, are some of the things you need in your pursuit to face reality.

4.    Will Power: When you question yourself, when you begin to falter or when you lose hope, use all the will power you have inside you to help you stay on the path. You might have a tough time in the beginning towards making yourself face the reality but always remember that you are not just building a great life but are also building a great character and it really helps you to grow stronger, which in itself is a great achievement.

5.    Conclusion: In the end, recognizing that you must face the reality in order to change yourself may be hard, but embracing this fact is your key to success and strength and the only actual thing that will really work for you is your own will power. When we release ourselves from the grip of denial, we open the door to truth and if there is one thing I know for sure, it is that all great things start there. As they say that truth is stranger than fiction but it is rewarding too. It rewards your self-esteem and your conscience and you feel free. So go ahead! Face the truth and this will make your life easy and successful. You will feel like a totally new person and the people around you will also feel relaxed in your company and respect you for your realistic personality.

Every Cloud Has A Silver Lining

There are some moments in our life, when we lose confidence in ourselves. We see darkness everywhere; we feel that is the end of the world. The sky of our life has thick black clouds of hopelessness, suffering and worries. We start to think that sun will never shine on us again, everything becomes worthless and light vanishes from our lives. Our dreams, our desires, aims and destiny seem meaningless, they seem like they never existed in the first place, we feel lonely and tired and don’t want to move ahead in life.

As it is said, ‘’our greatest glory consists in never falling, but in rising every time we fall,’’ So, how can we become full of hope again and start seeing the silver lining?

To become hopeful again, just sit alone for a while and explore your inside for some time. You will see that your soul is vast like this universe; there are no limits to the wonders captured inside you. Once you start to travel inside your soul you will discover a distant ray of light burning and flaring inside you symbolizing the dynamism of life. You will instantly try to reach that ray and it will bring warmth in you. That is the sign that you have unlocked the door to hope in your heart. The dark clouds, which were blocking the light from reaching your heart sometime back, will seem to vanish. You will be able to see the silver lining of each cloud. And this will make you think that even if you have lost once, you still have the ability to fight for it again to achieve your goal.

You will make plans again, change your strategy and then try again with more enthusiasm and vigour. You will put your entire strength in trying to achieve your target. And if even now you are not successful, you will not lose confidence, you will never give up you will keep aiming to achieve your goal no matter how many times you have to try. But in the end, there will come a time when finally you have achieved your goal. As the old adage goes in this life we get only those things for which we hunt, for which we strive and for which we are willing to sacrifice.

In this moment, you will realize that every setback you had to face was a source of strength. Every dark cloud that came to block your light had a silver lining, giving you a totally new perspective in life and a ray of hope. So never forget to see the silver lining and you will find yourself on the road to making all your dreams come true.

Control Your Anger

There are some days in our lives that are nothing but ‘’Worst’’ as there is no other better way to describe these days. So imagine having the worst day of your life.

You have overslept in the morning. You are late for school/college. You are in a bad mood because you had a fight with your ‘’Facebook’’ friend. You can’t concentrate properly and the teacher scolds you bad for this reason. Moreover, your teacher assigns you a tough assignment, which you have to hand in the next day. However, you can’t do that because you have to go out a get together with your classmates at night although you are worried inside about the teacher’s anger and the punishment you will get for not submitting the assignment.

To make matters worse, your father gets to know about your plans. So he forces you to call your classmates to inform them that you are staying at home to complete the assignment. Your classmates laugh at you for being such a ‘’Daddy’s child.’’

Now you are sitting in your room feeling so frustrated. Then your sister comes in your room and tells you to come downstairs for dinner. You are sad and miserable and instead of understanding your problem your sister laughs at you, which makes you yell at her due to which she runs out of your room crying at the top of her lungs. Your mother comes in and scolds you badly for making your sister cry. Now you feel like exploding with anger and frustration and end up hurting yourself.

So now you have a fair idea about what kind of situation I am talking about, the one that leaves you too angry and frustrated. But here are a few suggestions to keep your anger under control in such situations:

1.     Remember everything happens for a good reason even if you think this is the worst thing that has ever happened to you.

2.    If you are angry then try not to let it pout on people who care about you. It won’t give you any satisfaction; instead you will feel even worse.

3.    Talking to a close friend certainly help you to calm down.

4.    It is often seen that some people can get their emotions under control by writing journals. If you don’t want to talk to anyone then a journal is your best option. You can even write stupid things about people you dislike. It can be very helpful in the process of calming you down.

5.    Punching a pillow can help you let out all your anger. Just imagine the pillow is the thing that caused you so much trouble.

I use these tips when I am angry or frustrated and they really work.

Impossible Itself Says I-M-POSSIBLE

We do remember times when we were very young and used to think of becoming doctors, engineers etc. But now, if we think of becoming any of those, we consider it as Impossible. We think that at their times, studies were far easier than ours. Thinking this, we sit back and think of enjoying our lives rather than becoming professionals in such difficult occupations. While if we take a closer look, we will notice that people who are renowned in supposedly complex fields, were not much different than us. Albert Einstein was brilliant, but only hard work made him so.

So we should stop making differences between impossible and possible and just work hard and concentrate to make anything possible ourselves. And making anything possible doesn't mean stick to the books all day long, but instead take out time for everything and be balanced. It is important to make sure you don’t miss any fun. Take time out for yourself and enjoy with family and friends.

Those who think that all those things cannot be done together, I shall say again, nothing is impossible! Enjoy your life the way you want, but when it’s time for you to study, just get into the books for a while and concentrate fully, doing nothing else. It is foolish to be afraid of making mistakes, because learning from our mistakes is critical to our success. Effort and hard work can make a success out of anyone.

Live your life without the fear of death. Live it the way you want because you won’t get another chance to live it. Don’t forget: this is a world of possibilities!

Relations Ever Lasting

Few relations on earth never die! Life of a human is a tumult of relationships. Most of our life span is spent enmeshed in the web or relationships. Some of the relationships are weak and survive not for too long. These ephemeral relationships are lessons in life teaching us values of compromise over ego, sincerity without mistrust and trust without doubt. These ethereal relations rely on how better one avoids misunderstandings. Even little misunderstandings can cause these relations to break never to form again. Apart from these ephemeral relations, there are relations whose value in life never ends. They will last only when eternity approaches.

These relations provide so much in life that despite miles of distances and major disputes, the bonds never break and a part of these relations forever remains encored in hearts. Their essence diffuses through every dark vacancy in life filling it with the warmth of their brightness and spreading waves of ecstasy as smiles across faces and joys in the hearts. These relationships may be between humans or between material things or abstract things. These relations include the relation between parent and child, teacher and student national identity and individual, reader and books and human and nature. We owe our entire life or at least a part of our lives to these relations that can never be segregated.

When a child is born, parents nurture him until he is capable of living for himself. From infancy to adolescence parents, sacrificing their own needs, fulfill the demands of their children. Even when the children are big enough and capable to live on their own, the blessings and prayers of parents are there always to help them through difficulties in life. No worldly power can break this bond of child with parents. There is an essential part of one's character that lies in the parental blessings. Stronger than the iron chains and reliable than concrete walls, the parent child relationship is the first and everlasting relationship man beholds in life. As the human grows and moves towards maturity, the circle of relationships broadens and numerous people enter this circle and leave their impacts on our minds forever.

Their teachings remains the beacon of light and guidance through different phases in life. When difficulties approach and we are left in the midst of nowhere and troubles surround us from every possible dimension their guiding principles that we learn in our student life help us out of these troubles making us believe that without the teaching of these teachers we would have been left entangled in problems with no solutions. These guiding principles forever remain in our minds giving a feeling of their presence somewhere within us in every span of life.

With all these relations existing between the same species there are relation that yet exist among humans and abstracts. These things physically do not exist yet the relationships are strong. Such are the relationships of national identity and individuals, readers and books and human and nature. A person is identified in world by his nation. Where everyone is born the identity of that place remains with one forever and where ever he goes. In the present era when the world has globalize and deciphered into a small village, the inter movement of eastern and western people has increased. The trend is acute amongst eastern countries where living and earning in the west is considered honorary and eccentric. However wherever one dwells, earns and gains nationality or colored cards, the actual identity never fades infect amid the oodles of foreigners, immigrants are identified more by their true identity. This is the relation that never ends. One always remains attached to the roots. The roots may be spread miles afar but after all there is a junction where one meets the roots.

A human in his life span dwells on land uses its resources and nurture on the resources provided but the mother Earth. We essentially breathe in air, drink water, dwell on land, consume mineral resources and take a lot more from the nature to survive. In fact the nature's provision of blessings to us never ends. We are utterly dependent on the nature to survive. Where ever we may go to whatever technological progress we may make, it is the natural resources that help us devising means to progress and develop. An one sided cycle of provision has emerged with the passage of time in which the nature continues to strengthen its relation with man and man's dependence on it increases. Hence the relation of man with the nature never weakens yet with the man's dire need of progress by consumption of natural resources; the relation is going towards communalism where the nature is being destroyed. Knowledge is the best example of abstract relation. When on reads a book, the knowledge of the book enlightens one's vision giving a different dimension to think perceive and apply.

This knowledge provided by books, papers and magazines which never leaves our mind and help us in different ways throughout the life. Whenever we apply our knowledge gained from reading, we owe our victory to the books and papers we read. We forward this knowledge to others, become the teachers and the relationship of a teacher and student is established. The cycle thus goes on strengthening relationships never to end until eternity approaches.

Harsh Words

Words have been the cause of all the wars in the world. Words must be sweet or else they should not be spoken. You can become one with someone again even after you have fought with that person, if you use sweet words to relax him/her.Words are intangible but have a power to ruin someone deeply. They don't hit physically but can demolish the main structure of feelings. Now-a-days we are seeing how much people have become mean and selfish.

Wealth is everything for us, who does care of relations are modesty? We often speak harsh words to someone who completely gets hurt. However it is the century of science and era of modernism but the feelings of heart always be same. ''Where is Peace?" Social Media has an adverse effect on our lives. We have gone far away from relatives due to the fast and became upset by it so in the result we use harsh words. No family gathering, those dozen cups of tea and the peanuts which we used to eat together and share problems with each others. We aren't modern; we are feeling-less, directionless and senseless.

We do not weight our words while saying it. We are so mean that even we can't look down to know the miser conditions of poor. Beggars on Signals bear harsh words from those who sit in luxury cars. Why don't they luxurious people think about the real King who is ALLAH? It's the distribution of ALLAH Almighty; we aren't too good to deserve these blessings.

Have a look on your words while saying to others and know the harshness which can demolish the others. If your words can hurt to second person then these words can hurt you too if spoken by others. Islam teaches us good behavior  and Muhammad P.B.U.H used to preach about good behavior. A good behavior person is nearer to ALLAH and it's our daily to follow it.

We should learn to choose our words carefully, as we can hurt, and mislead others. Words can't be taken back, once you give them away. Harsh words are like bullets: no matter what, they can still leave a painful injury. And sometimes, a sorry is not enough to heal the wounds you leave. Talk deeply, yes many introverts find chitchat, which requires jumping quickly from subject to subject, over stimulating. They seek out deep, serious conversations in which they can focus on a single topic of mutual interest. Follow their lead. A study by University of Arizona psychologist Mathias found that the happiest people have twice as many substantive conversations as the unhappiest and participate in far less small talk. Some people just don't know how their harsh words and negative comments could have killed or hurt someone badly.

Words have power so utilize them in positive way as tear up someone isn't bravery but our softness and good behavior can make the people soft and consequently you will get many good friends and supporting shoulders that will be helpful for you in your entire life. Try to be good to everybody. Read more to stay stress free and humble. Science tells us that social connections make us happier and healthier, and science is right. But there are different kinds of social connection. Reading, for instance, can be a deeply social act, putting you inside other people's minds. The introverted writer Marcel Proust called reading "that fruitful miracle of a communication in the midst of solitude.'' And studies suggest that reading makes people more empathetic and improves social skills by helping us better understand our fellow humans. Some people tell their elders that they have no sense. How can one say such a thing? Who are they to assess commonsense in others? Such words will inevitably creative conflicts.

You should not say anything that would hurt others because you will be held liable for it. People who understand this will not take on such a liability; instead they will always say the right thing, whereas those who lack this understanding speak recklessly, taking on the liability. So be careful while talking to others and remember once said cannot be taken back.